Excerpts from “The Art of Seduction”
April 25, 2012 in Uncategorized
A man is often secretly oppressed by the role he has to play-always having to be responsible, in control, and rational. The Siren is the ultimate male fantasy figure because she offers a total release from the limitations of his life. In her presence, which is always heightened and sexually charged, the man feels transported to a world of pure pleasure. She is dangerous, and in pursuing her energetically the man can lose control of himself., something he yearns to do. The Siren is a mirage; she lures men by cultivating the male libido by embodying his fantasy.
“The Ideal Lover”
Most people have dreams in their youth that get shattered or worn down with age. They find themselves disappointed by people, events, reality, which can not match their youthful ideas. Ideal Lovers thrive on people’s broken dreams, which become lifelong fantasies. You long for romance? Adventure? Lofty spiritual communion? The Ideal Lover reflects your fantasy. He or she is an artist in creating the illusion you require, idealizing your portrait. In a world of disenchantment and baseness, there is limitless seductive power following the path of the Ideal Lover.
The ability to delay satisfaction is the ultimate art of seduction-while waiting, the victim is held in thrall. Coquettes are the grand masters of the game, orchestrating a back-and-forth movement between hope and frustration. The bait with the promise of reward-the hope of physical pleasure, happiness, fame by association, power-all of which, however, proves elusive; yet this only makes their targets pursue them more. Coquettes seem totally self sufficient: they do not need you, they seem to say, and their narcissism proves devilishly attractive. You want to conquer them but they hold the cards. The strategy of the Coquette is never to offer total satisfaction. Imitate the alternating heat and coolness of the Coquette and you will keep the seduced at your heels.